Matrimonial Romania where you marry a whole family!

Let me tell you about Matrimonial Romania. In most societies you stand up by your future wife and say I will support you for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health. Very noble speech - which in the UK extends as far as your own new family, with a shiny ring around, which limits your responsibilities to only these few people.

In Romania, marriage takes on a much deeper meaning - hence why I call it Matrimonial Romania. When you marry in a Romanian family, you promise to accept in richer and poorer the entire family and all their struggles, you will share all their joys, and plug all their financial holes - something which as probably the highest earner in the family will come thick and fast. Don't for a moment think that demands for money will be made directly for you to weigh up, family debts from other times will haunt you as when the person they originally borrowed from wants it back, then you will find out about the financial messes.

When it comes to sickness and health, nothing in the Romanian health service is free - everyone from the doctors and nurses to the emergency ambulance man wants a little extra something. Romanians also have great faith in completely untested and sometimes incredibly expensive medicines - and you are made to feel a complete git if you look at what it claims to do, points out the complete lack of any decent medical trials to read up on and so need to pay in blind faith so you know you have explored every avenue.

There are however big advantages of marrying an entire family - and no that does not mean you can sleep also with her sister - in the fact that as a foreigner your strange ways are more readily forgiven and the family protects you from your furious wife. As when you get into trouble, the family say 'He is a foreigner and does not know our ways'... which is a wonderful get out of jail free card. The problem is getting them to realize there is a point in the relationship where you do now know your way and could they take the training wheels off your marriage and leave it to roll on its own.

The Matrimonial Romania traditions are great. If you treat your wife well, you will be fine. You have to accept that while you may feel like you should be head of the family, as you have married an entire family, the chances are very strong that an older Romanian man will feel he is the head of the family and so you need to sit it out and wait until that vacancy opens up and you are left to steer the course of your ever aging family in the right route.

The problem for a man is likewise, he will never feel like the head of the family as her mother will also be putting in lots of silly, ancient untested ideas, which she expects to be followed, along with supporting the idea that the man - most probably her husband's views are also respected.

Eight years down the line and I am breaking out and cutting away ties in the family so that when it comes to little Victor, he does not have so many ideas floating about him - it is a tough job in this jungle of British and Romanian ideas - it is stunning to see how often they come at a problem is directly opposite ways. An example is how much exercise to give a child - the Romanians have great fears of the child's back an neck - the British more robust view is children always survive as my mother proudly informed my wife - every child lands on its head at least once!

The matrimonial Romania ways of life do get a little confusing, but at the same time, having a Romanian wife and of course her Romania family around you mean you will never be alone, or short of things to do or places to stay. Just sit back, close your eyes and enjoy the ride!

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Matrimonial Romania - why you marry a whole family (for better or worse!)

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